The simple answer to this questions is – you don’t.

But before you click and close this page, let me explain.

In my career, I’ve met some extraordinary people from all walks of life. What do they all have in common? They are all looking for a way to get on their path of authentic and lasting transformation.

Some people are confused about where they are and others are determined to get back in alignment with what matters most to them.

But everyone has their head and their heart to tell them what they think and feel. And everyone can choose to build a journey through life with the help of their head or heart. I’m fortunate to meet those who look beyond either – or and understand a truly fulfilling life is about a combination of both.

So, to start answering your question how do I know when it’s time to … the answer lies in where you start. This holds the key to understanding what you truly want, achieving it and realising when you are in the right place at the right time for exactly what you want to come together.

I believe, there are three ways to embrace any life choice. Not two but three.

The first is through our heads, what we think we know, assumption, logic, what we did last time and how conditioning teaches you your life should be.

The second, is through the heart, embracing your feelings, listening to your intuition, inner messaging, understanding life’s reflections, feeling what’s resonant and what you truly want deep down.

The third way is combining the best of both worlds by creating a  heart – mind alignment. Starting with the heart and then working through grounding your practical shift with a combination of your heart and your head. Planning and feeling your way to success.

Anything you want to change or experience arrives because of that wonderful place called ‘you know, when you know.’

Whether you want to fall in love, buy a multimillion dollar business, get divorced or leave your past behind; ‘you know when you know’ because you are supported by the center of your being and gateway to your soul – your heart.

But how can you get to be open, trust and be confident about your transformational journey?

Well, I believe the head is very good at asking questions, planning physical action and ‘to do lists.’ But the meaning, empowerment or lasting transformation doesn’t start in your head.

It’s not about what you know linearly, logically or what you assume. It’s about how much room you have to grow.

Are you ready to accommodate the new or have you already entered a life loop and decided what you can and cannot do. Is what you think you know holding you back but you think you’re sensible, comfortable or don’t know you’re actually falling into a safety slumber.

If you want to fuel your life with unlimited options, you need to find them in your heart.

The heart is connected to an unlimited flow of everything to help you choose the foundation of what you truly want. This isn’t ‘too much choice.’ It’s just a flow of energy that supports what you decide. You don’t need to copy what others have or what will make do or be good enough. You are perfectly worthy of creating and experiencing what you truly want.

Think of your heart foundation as being somewhere you can plug into unlimited options 24/7. The more you are in your heart, the more you are connected to the fuel that creates your life.

Your heart isn’t drama King or Queen Central. It isn’t fear, worry or feeling a failure. None of that happens in your heart.

When people tell me life’s become such a slog or a disappointment surely there’s got to be an easier way?

I answer ‘of course there’s an easier way. But it isn’t doing the same things in your head expecting different results.’

Heart central energizes and fuels your life. The more you are aligned in your heart the more efficiently, easily and even effortlessly you can create.

Commitment, authenticity and fulfillment all start in the heart. When you’re aligned you connect with endless opportunities that fuel whatever form of fulfillment you seek.

If you want to buy a company, your heart fuels this intention. Not the money to buy it. It fuels directly what you want to magnetise. No detours, no middle men, simply what you choose.

Does it mean that you might end up paying for your company at the end with money. Of course, this could be one of the ways. But the heart is full to the brim of ways to create what you want and money is by no means the quickest or most efficient way to magnetise the outcome you seek.

If you want a new relationship, business opportunity or fresh look at life, it can fuel all of these.

It energizes all the experiences in your life, understands your inner assets, your wisdom harvesting and empowers all types of transformation.

The heart always gives you a next step, a fresh perspective and another way or alternative understanding.

All you need to do is invest in the sacred time to be, surrender, allow, listen and co-create with the big picture vision of your life.

What are the benefits of starting in your heart?

It’s got all the answers, is the home of imagination, innovation, transformation  and evolution. It loves you and never judges you.

It tops you up when you feel down.

It helps you become part of the solution not add to the problem.

It wants you to succeed and wants you to learn and craft your path forward.

It wants the best for you and wants to support you in bringing your dreams into reality through simplicity, purpose and prosperity.

The heart frees you up giving you options outside of limited conditioning. It helps you formulate what you want each step of your way. Rather than hang onto ‘stuff’ way past it’s sell-by-date or build your new creation foundation on what happened last time.

The heart doesn’t tell you what you should do or ought to do.

It connects through Now and literally the latest upgrades and version of yourself.

It is constantly updating, expanding and supporting who you are becoming. Beyond linear time and logical definition the heart is the very nature of unending expansion.

Your heart is never scarce. It says to you ‘if you had all the money, health and  time what would you choose?’ It always starts from a foundation that fuels 24/7 what you truly want.

There is no better place to build who you want to become.

This is why you start in your heart.

But how do you know you’re actually there?

Denial can be a very convincing illusion but the best way to understand if you are in your head or your heart, is to be honest about the nature of your experience.

The heart doesn’t demand. It won’t scream at you saying I want, I need and you have to. The heart is a loving space where anything is possible but all the choices are yours. You’ve got all the energy, all the time and all the possibility.

But whatever you truly want starts with conscious choice.

Your ‘why’ or the intention behind your creation, is a vital part of creating what you want, knowing how to align your inner and outer world to turn dreams into reality.

Your heart supports balance, quality, the zing, the zong, the gut feeling, inspiration, enthusiasm  that you are connected to a wisdom that goes beyond what you think you know intellectually. It’s the type of knowing that combines your vision, illogical but totally meaningful universal hints and that sense of excitement that comes from trusting your creative process.

The heart turns the mundane into the magical. You step out of the restrictions of linear time because you are Now, present, and connected.

When you’re in your heart you step into fueling yourself and your life 24/7. You step away from putting yourself under limited beliefs or squeezing yourself into past conditioning.

If you struggle with being over stimulated by your surroundings, feel anxious about imposter syndrome or find is really hard to go within, recognise you are in your head.

If you find yourself being cynical, hyping or punishing yourself with impossible projections for your future performance – you’re in your head.

Much of your outside world entertains, demands attention, polarises and scatters your energy.

It’s easy to lose connection with your heart, question what you truly feel and what’s resonant, simply because you’re so entangled, entertained or distracted by what might happen in your head.

So here’s a quiet way to get into your heart…

Stop. Go somewhere beautiful in nature, quiet, private where you can sit quietly without interruption. Close your eyes, feel all the stress dripping off your body to the ground like droplets of water after a rain shower. Let your shoulders relax and your head fall silent. No inner critic, no anxiety about the future. Let go of attempting to control your surroundings. Allow yourself to rebalance and align with peace.

Ask your question…

Why do I want to let my relationship go? Why am I considering leaving my work? Why do I feel discouraged and unappreciated in my relationship? Why do I feel it’s time to act soon?

Then listen…

Sometimes answers come quickly, sometimes they are in the form of symbols or feelings. Sometimes there’s simply the sound of silence which is the sound of alignment and flow.

Don’t mistake the sound of silence for nothing happening.

This doesn’t mean you’re heart isn’t working or your connection isn’t there. It means you need to allow realignment to happen. Sometimes, we are so stressed we have no idea just how tightly coiled we really are. This is why connecting can seem challenging in the beginning because we didn’t realise how imbalanced we really were.

Any choice to rebalance will connect you to the flow in your heart and through your life. The enthusiasm, confidence, inspiration is always there. You just need to tune out of the scattered, fearful, adrenaline world and tune into the world of 24/7 flow.

If you can’t hear your heart communication, it could come shortly afterwards with a sign in your world or a headline jumping out from a newspaper.

It could come in feelings, tingling, the zing or the zong, or an overpowering feeling that everything is going to be alright.

There are as many descriptions of the sensation of heart connection as there are beings in on the planet.

But one thing is for sure, the answers are there, it’s just taking time to allow your unique connection to flow freely editing out imbalance and disturbance. Once you do this, you can translate your answers into your awareness.

Listening like any superpower takes practice. Being with your heart and yourself takes practice. Mostly we have more practice being Human doings than we have being Human beings.

The more you make time for self-love, self-awareness and the Best Version of yourself, the more you will connect to the fuel to create a life aligned with what the Best Version of self means for you.

So if your world is built from the heart and from the inside out, why is it so easy to get stuck in your head?

Because it’s easy to think that the world is only navigating what you know, what your parents did or what you’re conditioned to be.

You fear that if you return to your heart, your life won’t be safe, controlled and defined anymore. You will go out of control or be overwhelmed by feeling.

Of course this ‘logic’ loop doesn’t answer why you’re frustrated, unhappy and dissatisfied with what you have. It’s no answer at all. It just keeps you in a holding pattern, draining your energy through frustration, resistance and wasting who you are meant to be.

So, promise me you won’t sit there waiting for your stars to align while being stuck in a logic loop unable to choose an alternative and answer any of your questions.

Promise me, you aren’t going to avoid your own amazing potential and everything you truly want because you are nervous about the feeling and opportunities that are waiting to fuel your life.

Tell me, you aren’t going to limit yourself like that.

Understand that any break for freedom you make is your choice. Forget about what others think, it’s none of your business.

The way you choose to change, the rate at which you process your change is also your choice.

Don’t think for one moment that starting in your heart means you become a back seat driver transported through the streets of life with no say about your direction and how you want to experience your journey.

All your choices are YOUR choice.

How you do this trip, what you change and how fast you choose to change, is all up to you.

With the paradigm shift, uncertainty and upheaval the big picture is expanding before your very eyes.

The foundation of our lives has shifted. And it’s shifting daily.

Imagine you are at a train station and the train is about to depart. You can jump on while it’s stationary and take your luggage. Or you can board with the last whistle as it’s pulling out of the station but have to leave some of your luggage behind. Or you can literally leap on but have to leave all your luggage  because it’s essential you make this train.

We’re all becoming aware of what we truly want, what we’re miss out on and  how our choices can change the world. The meaning of life, the universe and where you fit in, is tapping us on the shoulder everyday.

And if you truly want to know when it’s the right time to choose, do or be anything, your heart is the ever expanding connection for continually evolving times.

If you start in your heart, you have so much more opportunity to align, shine and become what you truly want. A life full to the brim with what makes sense and resonates with your heart. Experiences full of meaning, prosperity and purpose. All because of your unlimited heartfelt foundation continually built to adapt, transform and evolve.

So let’s finish this understanding  excursion by answering the question:

How do I know when it’s time to…

…let go of the past, leave my job or a relationship that’s going nowhere?

You don’t know because living in your head exclusively can’t create the answer you’re looking for. There’s no foggy Saturday in July marked out for your success if you just follow a logical path. Moreover  if you stay in your head searching for answers that are in your heart, you’ll be looking a lifetime for that unique shift.

Knowledge alone doesn’t make you successful or create a life that will expand to embrace and ground your dreams into reality.

Einstein himself said ‘imagination is more important than knowledge.’

If you want a life you can really get into, embrace and feel passionate and empowered, living in your head isn’t the place. Knowing what you need to do starts with trusting what you choose to explore and feeling your way from dream to grounded reality. A theory only becomes wisdom when you apply it and build upon it in your heart and your experience.

Everything is relative because what’s on offer is always expanding. The only constant flow of answers for the person you are becoming is your inner truth, in your heart.

Being heart-centric ensures you are aligned with yourself and up to the very second of who you are becoming.

Being there when it all comes together…

What will bring you to understanding when your stars align is aligning with your whole world from the inside out.

Listening to your unique connection. Aligning with your heartfelt intention.

Realising what you truly want and allowing your heartfelt foundation to fuel it 24/7. While you are asleep, while you are awake and all the space in between.

You don’t need to know the exact day, date or time when you start your journey. You don’t need the exact formula or definition. Because you are greater than this. If you put the stop watch away you can give yourself all the time in your world for everything to come together. Most of all the possibility that it might be much quicker than you thought.

And if you listen to your unique connection you free yourself from the restrictions and limitations of what you think you are capable of.

Co-creating in your heart allows your stars to align instead of burning your energy trying to force the universe into a shape with no meaning.

When you start in your heart and keep balancing what you are doing and being, you keep nurturing your connection and alignment to magnetise continually.

No full on the accelerator and full on the breaks screeching to a stop. You are cruising and adapting as you go. You find the right gear for each twist and turn in the road. You make the best use of your creative momentum and continually expanding options.

So, the next time you question what you want to do, your latest vision of life or how to action your latest innovation, do me a favour and stop.

Take a break and give yourself the gift of the incredible energy supply you have at your disposal. Plug into your unique creative kryptonite.

Move out of analysis paralysis, perfectionist procrastination and justifying yourself to your inner critic.

Create some self-loving space and ask yourself why am I thinking about this change?

If the answer is because I’m depressed, unfulfilled, feel like I’m missing out on a real life then…

Choose to change how you feel about your life now. Stop judging yourself and allow the new you to begin.

Believe you are worthy of what you truly want to create and a life full of prosperity, purpose and joy.

What do you need to do to be in the right place at the right time?

What do you need to do to magnetise what you want, be there to receive it and allow your life to fall into place?

Start in your heart.